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A Mother’s Day MS tribute

By Matt Cavallo

For this Mother’s Day, I wanted to write a tribute to all of the moms affected by MS. Whether you are a mother living with MS or a mother of a child with MS, we appreciate all of you for the special difference you make in our lives.

For the mother living with MS, you are strong. You fight through all of the fatigue and symptoms to be the best mother you can be despite the challenges of living with MS every day. Raising a child is difficult enough without MS, but what you do for your children while battling this disease is truly remarkable. 

For the mother of a person living with MS, you are our rock. You are there in the trenches as we manage our symptoms.  You are there at our doctor appointments and there for our treatments. You pick us up when we are down and care for us when we are not strong enough to care for ourselves. You are our care partners, but we need you to know that it isn’t always easy to talk about what we are experiencing. We want to, but don’t always know the words to say. While we are saying it now, thank you. 

When I was first diagnosed, my mom told me that she would do anything she could to take my MS from me and take it on herself. While we both knew that was not humanly possible, it does symbolize the love that a mother possesses and the willingness to do anything for a child.

For the spouses of people living with MS, you are our everything. You are the mothers to our children, our best friends and care partners. There are times when MS rears its ugly head and you have to take care of us while managing the kids, house and day to day life without us.  Where you find the energy is truly a marvel to me and, yet, it seems like it is second nature to you. You do it all, every day, without expecting a thanks. Believe me, even though we don’t always say it, we do appreciate everything you do. 

Throughout my time living with MS, my wife has had to step in and help when I was either immobile or unable or both because of an MS flare up. While she was bathing, feeding, and dressing the babies, she would have to do the same for me. For better or for worse, she has always focused on the better – believing that the worse will pass. I don’t know where I would be today without her love and support and words can’t express how proud I am of the children we have raised. I could not do this journey without her and although I may not always say it, I am eternally grateful. 

If you are newly diagnosed and thinking about not becoming a mom because of your diagnosis, please don’t give up the dream. According to Cleveland Clinic, statistics show that your kids have a 3 to 5 percent lifetime chance of developing MS. That means there is a 95 to 97 percent chance that your baby won’t ever develop MS.

There are many types of mothers affected by MS. It is because of them that we know that we are going to be okay.